How To Release Your Inner Sex Kitten

Collage by Artes da Sil

We all have an inner sex kitten. Some of ours are out parading but some of ours have been locked up in a cage for years. She yearns to be released but sometimes it’s difficult to know what the key is to freeing her.

Feeling sexy is about how you feel on the inside. It’s an attitude. It’s confidence. Even though clothing and appearances can have a dramatic effect too, the long lasting effects come from within. I feel extremely passionate about self-esteem issues, and I think it’s about time women need to realise just how sexy and beautiful they truly are.

Accentuate the positives, eliminate the negatives: We all have bits we love and bits we loath. If you’ve got killer pins then use your gift! If you’ve got great cleavage then don’t be shy and hide those puppies away! And if someone you know is going to judge you for showing a bit of va-va-voom, then tough titties. They’re judgemental so let them suffer - it’s your turn to shine, baby!

Wear some killer heels: Even if it’s just around the house, wearing some heels instantly releases the pussy power within. Meeooooooww… Maybe it’s because it places our feet in the orgasm position or maybe it’s because we can hurt someone with the point of stiletto, I don’t know, and it doesn’t matter; heels = sexy. Although they do force you to stand up straight which makes you feel and appear confident - bonus!

Get a new hair-cut: But be radical! Don’t get the same old cut from Flo down the street. Go to a new salon where the hairdressers have great hair styles (that’s a good indication they’re not going to do a screwy job!) and let them take over. Get a completely different colour, or a really short do or even extensions. Whatever it is, go nuts and be different.

Take some sexy snap-shots: Put on the sluttiest outfit you can find and take some digital photos of yourself. I say digital because you can take as many as you like, you don’t have to show the perverted photo developer your sexy poses, and if you don’t like one of the photos you can delete it straight away. Find your good angles, create some soft lighting and click-click! You don’t have to show anyone, but look at them every now and then to remind yourself that you are an attractive and sexy woman! I would also suggest throwing away any really bad photos that make you feel shit about yourself; why are you holding on to these? You don’t need the negativity they create.

Take a long bath: Soak that booty-licious bod of yours in the tub for an hour. Light candles, play this song and add enough bubble bath mixture to create a sea of bubbles. You could even create a bubble bikini and take some photos of it! The lighting will be great amongst the candle light.

Wear sexy lingerie: When our knickers and brasseries are made with lace, satin and bows, it makes us feel feminine. You don’t have to wear them for show, just wear them under your work clothes and you’ll find that your sexy secret is enough for you to emanate sex appeal.

Walk around in your birthday suit: And I don’t mean going to the corner store naked (that’s illegal, people), I mean watch TV in the nuddy, ditch the pyjamas and sleep naked, wash the dishes with your fun bags hanging low; spending time in the buff allows you to be more comfortable in your own skin. You get used to your own body and start to really appreciate it. Apparently more than 85% of American women are unhappy with their appearance - that percentage is way too high!! Just think, in 20 years you’ll be wondering why you even bothered to worry about your flabby belly or flat chest, and wonder why you didn’t take a risk here and there and enjoy your life.

Take a dance class: There are only two types of dance classes you should take; belly dancing or pole dancing. They’re both seductive and alluring dances which will be sure to release your inner sex goddess… purrrrr…

Stop buying fashion magazines: Yep, it may seem crazy, but I swear a lot of women’s insecurities are coming from these ill-informed magazines. I stopped buying them 8 years ago and I have not regretted it one bit. As much as I loved the articles and fashion, the images were bringing me down. Do a search in Google for “real women’s bodies” and you’ll gain some perspective on how women really look. There are plenty of fantastic fashion blogs out there written by real women, so why not give them your support instead.

Wear something red: I swear by this. I love my red lipstick because it instantly makes me feel like a 1940’s pin-up. It doesn’t have to be lipstick though, you could try a red dress, or nail polish or heels. Whatever it is, red = sexy.

Fake it to make it: And this is the most important aspect to feeling sexy; you have to start really listening to those inner voices. We all have them. Every time you hear something negative, replace it with a positive. Even if at first you don’t believe it. Brainwashing yourself may seem like lunacy, but think about it, you brainwashed yourself into believing the negative things, you can definitely do the opposite. And it’s not just about those negative thoughts aimed at yourself, you have to start acknowledging those criticisms you aim at other people too.

Remember, sexy isn’t a dress size, its a state of mind.

Big love & arse slaps,

Ivyology on June 1st, 2008 | File Under Advice | -